Just put together some thoughts on what actually could work on dating apps in 2025. The things I wish I knew earlier. Basic tips and some help from ChatGPT too. Might help if you’re getting back out there.
When I first got into dating apps, I had no idea what I was doing. My profile was weak, bad photos, a bland bio, and I barely got any matches. It was frustrating, especially in places like Denmark where people seem effortlessly stylish and confident. But over time, I figured it out. Now, I’m getting matches I’m genuinely excited about, and turning them into fun conversations, and even real dates.
If I were starting out with dating apps in 2025, here’s what I’d do differently from day one.
What I’d Do to Succeed on tinder or bumble
Make a Great Profile
Your profile is your first impression, so make it count. I’d use clear, well-lit photos showing me doing things I enjoy, like biking, hanging with friends, or just relaxing with my dog. No blurry shots or group photos where you’re hard to spot. Natural, candid pictures always feel more genuine.
For the bio, I’d write something that actually reflects who I am and invites a response.
For example:
- Pineapple on a pizza – a green flag or a red flag?
- I read real books and wear real cologne.
- Weekend climber, weekday over-thinker. Fluent in brunch menus and bad puns.
- 6’3 so you can wear heels.
It’s fun, specific, and gives someone a reason to start a chat.
Send Fun, Personal Messages
Generic messages like “Hey” or “What’s up?” get ignored. I’d always look at the person’s profile and send something specific. If they’re into music:
“If you could go to any concert tonight, who’s playing?”
This shows I’m paying attention and makes it more likely they’ll reply.
Be Patient and Positive
Not every match leads to a chat, and not every chat turns into something more. That’s totally normal. I wouldn’t take it personally. I treat dating apps like a process, stay positive, and good things usually follow.
Use AI as a Helper
Tools like ChatGPT-based extensions are game changers. If I get stuck on what to say, I’ll ask for a message idea based on the person’s profile. Since majority of AIs can see pictures now, it’s really helpful for noticing details.
Using this chrome extension I can see what a model like Google Gemini or ChatGPT would suggest and then tweak the message to sound like me, it’s just about getting unstuck and staying creative, not letting AI do the work for me.
Be Real and Kind
I’d never fake who I am or try to impress people by pretending to like things I don’t. If I’m funny, it’s because I think something is actually funny. I’d always be polite and respectful, if someone doesn’t reply, I leave it at that. Being authentic and kind builds trust and makes dating more enjoyable.
Learn and Have Fun
I treat dating like an experiment. If a message doesn’t work, I try something new. If my profile isn’t landing, I update it. It’s not about getting everything perfect, it’s about improving and enjoying the process. Every conversation teaches me something.
What I Wouldn’t Do
Use Bad Photos or a Boring Bio
Dark, blurry selfies or photos where I’m hard to spot? No thanks. I’d also avoid writing a lazy bio like “Just ask” or “Here for fun.” That doesn’t give anyone a reason to swipe right.
Send Lazy Messages
Messages like “Hi” or “Hey” usually go nowhere. And I’d never copy-paste generic pickup lines, they feel fake and don’t show any genuine interest.
Get Mad or Pushy
If someone unmatches or doesn’t reply, I don’t get angry or try to follow up endlessly. That kind of behavior is a turn-off and just makes dating more frustrating. I’d let it go and focus on the next match.
Pretend to Be Someone Else
Using AI to write things that don’t sound like me? Not worth it. People can tell when you’re not being real, and it gets awkward fast. I use AI for inspiration, not to create a fake version of myself.
Focus Only on Getting Matches
Swiping on everyone just to rack up matches leads to empty chats and wasted time. I’d rather swipe thoughtfully and focus on people I actually want to connect with.
Did You Know?
In a pool of 50 men and 50 women on Tinder, 46 women chase just 4 guys, leaving 46 men scrambling for the attention of the remaining 4 women.
That’s why standing out, with a strong profile, a personal message, and genuine vibes, matters more than ever.
Why This Works
When I started, I felt invisible. A couple of weak photos, a boring bio, and barely any messages that led anywhere. But once I improved my profile, wrote better messages, and used tools like AI for inspiration, things started to shift. I began matching with people I genuinely liked, and the chats felt real and fun.
In 2025, dating apps are crowded and competitive. But by being real, thoughtful, and kind, and putting in just a little effort, you can absolutely stand out. And when you treat it as a chance to meet new people and learn along the way, dating starts to feel a lot less like a chore and a lot more like an adventure.
So update that profile, send that thoughtful message, and enjoy the ride. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but you can build a foundation now.